Friday, August 3, 2012

What to Wear When Someone Passes


Since this has been a hard subject for me and I felt that I couldn’t write a whole lot with these two posts, I decided to combine the posts together.



Unfortunately on Monday, heaven gained a beautiful angel, my sister. It's been tough but I have to be strong for the family. Be there for my younger brothers and sisters. Even though she's just my sister in law and very much older than me, I still looked up to her and considered her as part of my family. .

It's still too surreal and I still have no words to say...

She passed away in a car accident a week after my birthday and it breaks my heart just thinking about it. I know I have to be strong though and keep my head up for everyone else in the family. But I still can't believe what happened.

The viewing is tomorrow at Duggans Mortuary and since this is a fashion blog I wanted to touch on the fashion question of what someone can wear to a viewing. Basically the visitation gives an opportunity for people who knew the deceased to express their condolences, share memories of the person who died or simply demonstrate their support for those grieving. When attending a visitation having the appropriate attire should be kept in mind.

What to Wear to a Viewing:

·         Respect the Family
Make sure you wear black. By wearing black it shows that you took the time to change and it also shows respect for the family because you are seen mourning with them . Make sure you have a formal put-together outfit. You want to demonstrate that you care and that you just didn’t put anything on. A traditional attire for men would be a dark suit or with or without a jacket. For women, skirts with blouses, dresses, and even blouses with dark pants will be appropriate.
·         Keep it Conservative
Regardless of the type of clothing, ladies make sure that it is conservative. You don’t want to show too much skin because it takes the focus off from the person who is deceased and brings the focus to yourself. It’s considered disrespectful for the family.
However, if you feel that your wardrobe is inadequate, don't let that stop you from attending. If possible, find something a bit more formal in your closet.
Regardless, the family will be appreciative that you attended rather than be sneering of your outfit. The most important thing is your presence not your appearance.


Next topic I wanted to talk about is what to wear to the funeral.

The funeral is on Saturday at Holy Angels followed by the processing at Holy Cross. To tell you the truth, I'm not too sure what to wear. Especially if you’re a family member, what does one wear? Does that person wear the normal black attire? I've went to my boyfriend's grandmother's funeral just 2 months ago and they wore black and purple. I'm not sure what the purple meant if it was her favorite color or was it a spiritual color. I'm not too quite sure. But I found another article on what to wear.


Sometimes when a love one passes away the last thing on your mind is trying to find something to wear. With all the emotions running you don't want to be too inappropriate in your attire. 


1. Simple, Classic and conservative styles will help. You don't want to draw too much attention to your outfit because it can be misinterpreted as disrespectful.
2. Dark colors or black. Black always works for funeral but if you want to stay away from that color a dark color will help too. 
3. At the end it really doesn't matter, as long as you’re not wearing revealing clothing or loud clothing, you should be ok. 

Rest in Peach Tin Tin. 

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